Tea with Queen and J.

Sep 14, 2025 · 2h 12m

Will an era of rap that's finally making room for its male elders make equitable space for women and MaGes too? For this conversation we use the Clipse epic rollout as grown ass rappers (Pusha T, 48 & Malice, 53) launching their highly rated album and successful tour - to explore the experiences and P.O.V of Black women in and around the industry. I promise you it's not a reach. Culture writer Starr Rocque & PR Strategist Uchechi Chinyere join me to discuss all things Clipse, hip-hop, Black women & femmes. You don’t have to know shxt about the Clipse or their latest album Let God Sort Em’ Out to enjoy this conversation, but also please email and let me know how you managed to avoid knowing shxt about the Clipse during this very Clipse 2025. I think it's important to note that Tyler the Creator who shows up in one of the best features of the album is queer. We mention his feature, but not his queerness, which IS relevant in THIS conversation. Watch the full video version of this episode on patreon: https://www.patreon.com/posts/what-clipse-of-138611501?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=postshare_creator&utm_content=join_link Starr Rocque @starr_rocque Uchechi Chinyere @wordsbyuchechi Women rapper thread: https://www.threads.com/@janiciaf/post/DMDQXE7gI6j?xmt=AQF0WN0h7xzS2qlRGsOYMykXzUyAAPgE41MUyQlMM43TAQ 00:00 intro 1:52 Hyperbolic Bronx rappers 3:47 Growing up with The Clipse 8:19 Sometimes you just want n****s to rap 11:54 "Drake" "was" "a" "backpacker" 13:10 The Black Women problem 17:58 Women rappers & The Clipse 23:49 Doechii won't stop talking about her vxgina 24:42 Rapsody the obvious or problematic choice 28:20 Give us nothing Nas! 29:25 Ageism 40:09 André 3000 44:10 Misogyny in hip hop is systemic AND personal 48:46 Colorism 58:47 Christianity 1:09:51 Journalism 1:17:15 When women and girls love hip hop 1:35:46 Gatekeeping Black women out, ushering white people in 1:44:04 Asking for what we deserve 1:49:17 Attending Clipse NPR Tiny Desk 1:52:50 Honesty in hip hop and IRL 1:57:17 Big sibling energy 2:03:59 What happened with The Grapevine Email me teawithqueenandj@gmail.com Support Paypal: www.paypal.com/paypalme/teawithqj Patreon: www.patreon.com/teawithqj

Jun 23, 2025 · 52m

00:00 Intro & updates 04:57 Who is Deanté Kyle 06:52 Men with podcast mics 12:49 How video podcasting is a call back to an earlier podcast era 15:42 The problem 29:42 Jess Hilarious & The Breakfast Club 31:46 Not every transphobe is a TERF 34:50 Jess Hilarious hates “real women” too 41:17 What’s wrong with birth-centric womanhood This episode was recorded prior to Deanté Kyle’s use of a derogatory slur (typically used against Mexican Americans) in an instagram comment and does not address that incident. Reference link: https://www.tiktok.com/@cetosdaughter/video/7515458001906568478?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc&web_id=7214922055941899818 Watch the full video version of this episode on patreon https://www.patreon.com/posts/problem-with-too-132076103?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=postshare_creator&utm_content=join_link Email me teawithqueenandj@gmail.com Support Paypal: www.paypal.com/paypalme/teawithqj Patreon: www.patreon.com/teawithqj

May 16, 2025 · 1h 22m

If you wear clothes this is a Black ass history conversation that you need. Let's discuss. Fashion & style friend's Channél Jordan & Diamond Stylz join us for history, theory & context. While we use the Met Gala as a launching point for a larger conversation on Black style, YOU DO NOT NEED TO CARE ABOUT OR TO HAVE SEEN MET GALA COVERAGE to enjoy this episode. 3:05 Pop-culture & fashion in politically perilous times 7:37 Black Dandyism Definitions & Disappointment 15:33 Met Gala theme habits 18:00 Enslavement & Jim Crow vs. the last 100 years 26:44 The exhibit 29:30 Gender 40:28 Corporatism 42:53 Black contributors and the Pharrell of it all 52:05 Respectability & Class 56:47 Sapeurs 1:00:09 Who Understood the assignment Watch the full video version of this episode on patreon: https://www.patreon.com/posts/met-gala-was-y-129079950?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=postshare_creator&utm_content=join_link Email me teawithqueenandj@gmail.com Support Paypal: www.paypal.com/paypalme/teawithqj Patreon: www.patreon.com/teawithqj

May 2, 2025 · 1h 20m

Before my solo Sinners review, I sat with actor/comedian Chris Lamberth on The Mundane Festival podcast for a fresh-out-the-theater spoiler filled review, and got to cover a few additional themes that were on my mind. We get into the Black British actor debate, church-y-ness and a fear of spirit (we're seeing a lot of that fear in some Christian's negative reactions to the film), Mary's 'whiteness' and more. (Note: The film had just come out at the time of this recording, so I confuse Mary and Annie's name a few times) 6:05 Michael B. Jordan THE ACTOR 10:13 The Black British actor debate 24:09 The world building of 1932 Mississippi 25:02 Lie-max vs IMAX 28:11 Family, Community & Connection 31:44 The importance of movie theaters 34:26 Hoodoo, Anti-Blackness & the Church 38:21 white Mary 44:01 "Revenge" and "life" vs. "death" 53:57 Brotherhood beyond death 57:42 Ranking Ryan Coogler films 1:00:58 Ryan Coogler's unique press run 1:07:09 Why some Christians are afraid of Sinners and Beyoncé Watch the full video version of this episode on patreon: https://www.patreon.com/posts/another-sinners-127862233?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=postshare_creator&utm_content=join_link Email me teawithqueenandj@gmail.com Support Paypal: www.paypal.com/paypalme/teawithqj Patreon: www.patreon.com/teawithqj

Apr 25, 2025 · 55m

Let's review Ryan Coogler's original film "Sinners" 4:58 The Great Migration 10:33 Sammie's Salvation 12:27 Why Twins? 15:11 IMAX baby!!!! 17:14 Why do we sleep on Michael B. Jordan? 21:22 What does "Good" vs "Evil" mean to you? 27:15 Music and Spirit 33:24 "The best day" of their lives 37:39 Oral s*x in 1932 38:43 Vampires, cults and persuasion 44:58 Let's talk world building 49:27 That Jonathan Majors casting rumor Watch the full video version of this episode on patreon: https://www.patreon.com/posts/sinners-spoiler-127335654?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=postshare_creator&utm_content=join_link Email me teawithqueenandj@gmail.com Support Paypal: www.paypal.com/paypalme/teawithqj Patreon: www.patreon.com/teawithqj

Apr 17, 2025 · 1h 20m

Over the past five years, after a lifetime of struggling and a lot of research, I’ve come to the conclusion that I probably have ADHD = Attention Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder. I’m self-diagnosed, so I invited my medically diagnosed friend Diamond Stylz to discuss all things ADHD and how it impacts our lives. 1:55 Growing up undiagnosed 12:21 What is ADHD? 15:54 Ableism & Stigma 20:18 Symptoms and lowkey hoarding 25:00 Procrastination and executive function/dysfunction 26:55 Diagnoses and medication 33:33 ADHD & depression 36:58 Hormones and ADHD 42:38 Anxiety, depression and environment 49:46 bell hooks and your home 55:59 Getting/hiring help 1:00:11 Love, Limerence & ADHD 1:05:10 Friendship & ADHD 1:10:38 Rejection Sensitivity (RSD) 1:14:18 Releasing shame & building community Episode credits, links & resources https://www.patreon.com/posts/icymi-theres-new-126784182?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=postshare_creator&utm_content=join_link Watch the full video version of this episode on patreon: https://www.patreon.com/posts/are-you-raw-adhd-125589631?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=postshare_creator&utm_content=join_link teawithqueenandj@gmail.com SUPPORT Paypal: https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/teawithqj Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/teawithqj

Feb 5, 2025 · 44m

Not to bring up old shxt, but I don't like how "the media" glazed over Kendrick Lamar calling out ShxtsNGigs specifically, on 'wacced out murals'. Kendrick is just as sick of the podcast industrial complex as the rest of us and I think that's hilarious. In this episode we talk about Kendrick (because I must) but more importantly we use the men-with-podcast-equipment epidemic as a jumping off point for how to approach trusting men in our community, the potential for betrayal - and how the way we approach both reflects our understandings of oppression, and our individual relationships to power, privilege, and accountability. 00:58 LA fires, California Black Freedom Fund 2:14 Kendrick Lamar is tired of the podcast industrial complex too 5:51 Queen is ok not watching anime 8:37 Were James & Fuhad ever “one of the good ones” 10:56 Is participating in misogyny a choice 13:18 Misogyny sounds cute in a British accent 15:26 Your privilege increases your capacity to harm 17:16 Hyper-focusing on marginalization lets privilege of the hook 19:33 Deifying “nice” men 23:05 Is the disappointment/upset at men like ShxtsNGigs performative 24:53 Are you an agent of oppression? 31:50 Are you in community with people more marginalized than you 36:40 Is your partner's misogyny a reflection of you Check out the California Black Freedom Fund https://www.pledge.to/BlackLA For other vetted funds, resources, and events in California check out Philanthropy CA https://www.philanthropyca.org/2025-california-disaster-response The previous episode referenced is Black American Dollars, Black American Politics, available on patreon, where we discuss the ShxtsNGigs incident and anti-Blackness across the diaspora: https://www.patreon.com/posts/bonus-video-113195050?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=postshare_creator&utm_content=join_link Watch full video version of this episode on patreon: https://www.patreon.com/posts/is-participating-121221180?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=postshare_creator&utm_content=join_link Music featured in this episode includes "Totter Teeter" by Guustavv https://www.epidemicsound.com/track/4y6tgclvb0/ Teawithqueenandj.com DONATE Paypal: https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/teawithqj Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/teawithqj This episode was created, hosted, and produced by Naima Lewis Muhammad & Janicia Francis, with editorial support from Jonathan Luna, Opening song by Ohene Cornelius

Dec 30, 2024 · 45m

Let's talk about HOW we're talking about Diddy. Though Sean "Diddy" Combs is in jail on a variety of SA allegations, a lot of social media content has reduced his alleged behavior to "being freaky" - raising a larger conversation about society's understanding of SA, consent and it's complicated relationship with consensual sex. Our resident kink enthusiast, Queen breaks down how sex and kinks get harmfully conflated with acts of violence and SA, while J. gets in their Black church kid Telfar about the influence of cultural Christianity, domination & control on community concepts of sex and deviance. Also the kink spectrum, group sex, the closet queer to r*pist pipeline (that's not a thing), queerness and possibility, and more. Watch the video version of this episode on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/posts/sex-queerness-118518621?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=postshare_creator&utm_content=join_link 00:45 GloRilla's PR savvy 4:09 So Diddy is in jail... 6:15 Exhibit A: Diddy is not from Harlem 9:10 How social media is engaging with the Diddy allegations 10:47 Being "freaky" vs being "a r*pist" 12:52 Conflating sex with deviance is a tradition 14:06 The kink spectrum 18:46 Queerness, non-monogamy and Black cultural Christianity 22:53 How a cultural context of control & domination impacts sexual beliefs 27:13 Not the group sex girlies being surprised by consent 35:35 Closeted sexuality is not a pipeline to being a r*pist 38:00 How disregarding whole groups of people allows abuse to persist 41:27 Kendrick's "Not Like Us" and how it frames SA Teawithqueenandj.com DONATE Paypal: https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/teawithqj Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/teawithqj This episode was created, hosted, and produced by Naima Lewis Muhammad & Janicia Francis, with editorial support from Jonathan Luna, Opening song by Ohene Cornelius

Nov 30, 2024 · 1h 24m

Your womanist race-nerd recap of all them post-election vibes, is here! In this lawd halmurphy of an episode we recap the delusion of the Mike Tyson vs. J*ke Paul fight, what we're gonna do about these yt people, the racism of deflecting to non-white voters, performing voter disappointment on social media, how the ego is might be ruining activism, the 4B movement, self-caring to freedom and mad other sh*t. Check out Kimberly Foster's breakdown of the 4B movement making its way to the US. Shout out to @pardonmewithp for capturing that fresh post-election rage. And our throwback post-election episode #79 Bigotry Didn't Start Last Tuesday is worth the listen as a time-capsule of what was happening at the time politically, the birth and rebranding of the "women's march" and the frustration a lot of us felt towards Hillary Clinton's campaign. Watch the video version of this episode on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/posts/not-post-shoulda-116836973 0:00 Intro 2:09 Mike Tyson vs Paul fight 5:23 VP Harris Concession speech 7:56 Post-election WTF 16:15 Stop deflecting to non-white voters its eww 21:23 2016 vs 2024 election vibes 24:03 Performative pain for social media 31:28 "Not voting during a genocide" morning afters 35:06 Is your activist ego happy that Tr*mp won 39:57 Is the 4B movement a viable post-election response 50:08 What are we gonna do about yt ppl? 52:00 1:02:00 Can we self-care to freedom? 1:05:02 Is there too much disagreement within the movement? 1:09:24 Can you remove your ego from your activism on social media? 1:15:46 The "Latino" vote 1:18:29 Get in your community! Teawithqueenandj.com DONATE Paypal: https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/teawithqj Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/teawithqj This episode was created, hosted, and produced by Naima Lewis Muhammad & Janicia Francis, with editorial support from Jonathan Luna, Opening song by Ohene Cornelius