Cultivating H.E.R. Space: Uplifting Conversations for the Black Woman

Sep 10 · 33m

Life is good...like REALLY good. In fact, it’s LIT. You’re “blessed and highly favored.” To the casual observer, everything on the outside appears to be wonderful. But on the inside...you feel empty. Lady, is this you? If so, you may be experiencing depression. What we know for sure is that ALL of us will experience symptoms of depression related to many normal life events like a relationship breakup, grief over a loss, or other stressors. For most of us, the feelings of sadness last for a few days at most. For others, if the symptoms last more than a two weeks we may be experiencing a major depressive episode. In today's throwback episode, Terri and Dom discuss what depression looks like; what are some causes; and why we need to reduce the stigma so that we can take care of ourselves. Terri shares with us pieces of her journey with depression and Dom addresses the uncomfortable topic of suicide.   Some Common Signs and Symptoms of Depression: Sadness Anger Loss of interest or pleasure Changes in sleep, weight, appetite   Quote of the Day: “I don’t think people understand how stressful it is to explain what’s going on in your head when you don’t even understand it yourself”- Anonymous   Takeaways: Take 5 minutes a day to pour into yourself (meditation, walking, talking with your support system) Check on your friends- especially the strong ones Mood Tracker app If you or someone you know ever has thoughts of suicide please contact National Suicide Prevention Hotline   Resources: Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: herspacepodcast@gmail.com  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Sep 4 · 22m

Lady! We talk a lot about loving yourself, and developing a deep relationship with yourself, and building a healthy practice of self-acceptance and devotion to oneself, but we typically keep it PG. Today, Dr. Dom and Terri talk about self-love holistically. Yes, lady, this week Dr. Dom and Terri discuss why deepening your relationship to your body and your pleasure is critical to you walking out in the world feeling fulfilled and full of joy. Terri offers perspective on how early programming from childhood, family, and religious dogma can block us from knowing ourselves deeply and intimately and Dr. Dom offers guidance to building that relationship with yourself. The fact of the matter is finding pleasure with, by, and for yourself is more than experiencing the juicy satisfaction of an orgasm. It’s helping you cultivate a practice of deep listening to yourself and your desires, and building a baseline of self-trust so that you can achieve the best sex you’ve ever had, even if it’s just you double-clicking your own mouse. So, lady, tap in so you can hear practical tips on keeping yourself healthy and happy with or without a partner!   Goal Mapping Starter Guide Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary   Resources: Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice Get That Pitch Workshop: Turn your story and expertise into speaking gigs, media features, and collaborations, without a publicist. Visit GetThatPitch.com and Use code HERSPACE for a special listener discount. Branding with Terri Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Therapy Fund Foundation   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: cultivatingherspace.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Sep 3 · 43m

Lady, before you make plans with your boo for the weekend, you may want to listen to this episode. This week Terri and Dom welcome Dr. Joy Cooper back for a much-needed conversation. In this week's throwback episode, the ladies dive into a different topic related to our gynecological health...STDs and STIs. If you remember what you learned in the sex-ed class in high school and the pamphlet in your doctor’s office... get ready because Dr. Joy is providing us with all of the updated terminology and statistics. Be sure to scroll down to check out the additional resources mentioned in the episode and links to contact Dr. Joy with your personal questions. Quote of the Day: "I called my best friend to tell her. We made a nickname up for it so we wouldn't have to use the words. We called it clouds." - Anonymous Takeaways: Dental Dams Female Condom Relevant Episode:  S4E3: The Burden of Fibroids for Black Women with Dr. Joy Cooper Follow Dr. Joy Cooper on Instagram: @thedrjoy Our Culture Care California residents: Send a DM to Dr. Joy on IG or  @ourculturecare Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: herspacepodcast@gmail.com H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Aug 28 · 22m

Lady! Take a deep breath because this week Terri and Dr. Dom are about to bring it to you. A major part of growing and expanding is being present enough to be aware and accountable for your ish. That’s right, you can only go as deep with someone as you’ve gone with yourself. That means, are you having honest conversations with yourself that allow you to identify and address the areas where it’s you (not them) that needs to be accountable? Accountability is not easy to master but once you do, you’ll see real tangible results in the quality of your relationships. Dr. Dom and Terri give you a taste of what a healthy accountability practice looks like with actionable steps you can use in today’s mini episode.   Today’s sponsor is VB Health, known for science-backed, third-party tested supplements made in the USA. Try Soaking Wet, which supports vaginal health and balance. Many people report noticing benefits within 1–2 weeks of daily use. Visit this link and use code HerSpace for 10% off: https://bit.ly/VBhealthherspace   Goal Mapping Starter Guide Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary   Resources: Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice Get That Pitch Workshop: Turn your story and expertise into speaking gigs, media features, and collaborations, without a publicist. Visit GetThatPitch.com and Use code HERSPACE for a special listener discount. Branding with Terri Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Therapy Fund Foundation   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: cultivatingherspace.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Aug 27 · 50m

Lady, when was the last time you took a long hard look in the mirror to examine the negativity you may bring to your relationships? We know that doing so requires hard work and often a level of vulnerability that some of us will readily avoid. In today’s throwback episode, Terri and Dom offer us ways to identify when and why we are the toxic ones in our relationships. They also share some of their toxic ways. Within that sharing, the ladies also provide us with concrete steps to take if we are ready for making a change in our behavior patterns. Be sure to tune in and also scroll below for more information on tips and resources mentioned in this episode.    Quote of the Day: "Your toxicity in your relationships with other people is actually an extension of the toxicity in your relationship to yourself. What you have is not an issue with how you relate to others, but a fundamental trauma that is preventing you from being at ease within yourself. That is what you must address." - Brianna Wiest   Takeaways: Signs it's you: All of your problems are someone else's fault You take more than you give There's so much drama You have a major superiority complex You’re a Debbie Downer You only express love or admiration when you need something. How to make the change: Watch how people interact around you Monitor your own thoughts and actions Apologize more and seek understanding Identify the root of the toxicity and what must be done to heal Will I Ever Be Good Enough?: Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers  The Self Compassion Deck   Relevant Past Episodes: S5E3: A Fresh Perspective on Receiving Feedback and Managing Defensiveness S5E4: How Your Words Are Creating Your Current Reality (Put Some Respect on Your Name) S3E12: Healing Intergenerational Trauma with Dr. Thema Bryant-Davis Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: herspacepodcast@gmail.com H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Aug 25 · 1h 5m

What's it really like growing up as the daughter of an NBA player and the sister of a global icon? Shaya Bryant — daughter of NBA and European league legend Joe "Jellybean" Bryant, and sister of Kobe Bryant — joins Born To The Game for Part 1 of a deeply personal two-part conversation about family, legacy, identity, and life behind the fame. In this episode, Shaya opens up about: Growing up in a basketball family and moving overseas to Italy and Switzerland as a kid Learning Italian in months and the culture shock of returning to Philadelphia Her tight-knit bond with Kobe growing up — "thick as thieves," pranks, and no real fights Kobe's early work ethic, 6am gym sessions, and the moment that shaped the Mamba Mentality Her father Joe "Jellybean" Bryant as a present, playful dad and the lessons he instilled Navigating fame, privacy, and protecting her peace from public perception Motherhood, grief, and carrying her family's legacy forward on her own terms This is Part 1 of 2 — Part 2 drops next week with even more of Shaya's story. New episodes are live every Tuesday. Full videos are live every Wednesday on YouTube. Subscribe to Born To The Game for more honest conversations about culture, family, entertainment, ambition, and legacy. Find the Show: Born to the Game PodcastSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Aug 21 · 16m

Lady! If you’ve noticed by now the unofficial theme for this year is community. How to build it, how to engage with it, and how to be responsible with it. As we continue to expand our understanding of what it means to be in community with others, we have to keep our most vulnerable in mind. That’s right, how are we helping the babies and the young people navigate the world? This week, Dr. Dom and Terri offer a quick glimpse into ways we can help protect children’s peace. Are you being mindful of your conduct when in the presence of children? Studies show that kids are their most observant and absorbent of behavior and energy up to the age of 8 and it is our responsibility as community members to model what it is like to engage in ways that show self-respect and respect for others. Even if they aren’t your babies, they are somebody’s baby and they deserve an opportunity to have their innocence preserved and experience as peaceful a world as possible. Tune in for a few tips on how to walk in the world knowing that there are literally people who look up to you and take their cues from how you move in the world.   Goal Mapping Starter Guide Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary   Resources: Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice Get That Pitch Workshop: Turn your story and expertise into speaking gigs, media features, and collaborations, without a publicist. Visit GetThatPitch.com and Use code HERSPACE for a special listener discount. Branding with Terri Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Therapy Fund Foundation   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: cultivatingherspace.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Aug 20 · 36m

We all know what it feels like when someone violates our boundaries but how do we know when we are the boundary violator? Have you ever... offered unsolicited advice? Gossiped? Said what you would do if you were in someone’s situation? Asked personal questions? Interrupted someone in the middle of a conversation? Touched someone’s hair? Touched someone on the shoulder? Asked a coworker where they lived? If you answered yes to any of these questions, then you, like most of us, have been a boundary violator. In today’s throwback episode, Terri and Dom take us through multiple situations (including current events from pop culture and a subscriber question) in which we may be unintentionally invading someone’s personal space and offer us tips on how to navigate those situations.   Quote of the Day: "R-E-S-P-E-C-T...find out what it means to me!” - The Queen, Aretha Franklin   Takeaways: What to do if we violate the boundaries of others Apologize Be willing to listen Don’t take offense Ask for permission   Resources: Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: herspacepodcast@gmail.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Aug 14 · 17m

Hey lady! When you see someone you perceive as having great confidence do you seethe with envy or do you admire them and wonder how you can get some of your own motion? This week, Terri and Dr. Dom break down why Black women who exude confidence and self-assuredness get so much hate thrown their way. In today’s popular culture it seems as if you step out into the public eye with high self-regard and good self-concept chances are you are going to catch your fair share of haters. Should you let that stop you? No. But, as a human is it possible to feel a sting when it does happen? Sure, which is why Terri and Dr. Dom impart some wisdom about how to still do your thing without worrying about what others think and have to say. Hint: Because 9 times out of 10 whatever is making them uncomfortable is a them thing, so keep doing you, boo! This episode is sponsored by VB Health, a woman-owned, physician-led supplement company creating doctor-formulated supplements that work. We’re featuring Drive Boost (libido support for all genders). Visit this link and use code HerSpace for 10% off: https://bit.ly/VBhealthherspace   Goal Mapping Starter Guide Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary   Resources: Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice Get That Pitch Workshop: Turn your story and expertise into speaking gigs, media features, and collaborations, without a publicist. Visit GetThatPitch.com and Use code HERSPACE for a special listener discount. Branding with Terri Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Therapy Fund Foundation   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: cultivatingherspace.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.